Good morning, everyone and welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.
Today, I want to talk about “changing our shoulds in life to musts.”
There’s a big difference between saying, “I really should start working out and get on a healthy eating plan,” to “I must start eating healthier and start getting fit.”
It’s a big difference in what that invokes in you. A “should” won’t get you moving. It won’t call you to action. A “must” makes it absolutely imperative that this gets done.
What things in your life have you been calling “shoulds” that really need to be “musts”? Is there something that your health depends upon you doing that if you don’t do these things down the line, you’re going to experience pain because of it. We need to get leverage to get us to do the things that happen “shoulds” and to turn them into “musts”.
What is that leverage? What if it has to do with the relationship? “I really need to put some time into my marriage.” “I need to be more present.” “I should be more present.” “I should probably create a date night every week.” “I should probably try and lift them more and take more interest in my partner’s life.” “I should do these things.” You’re probably not going to do them if they’re really a “should.”
So think about to yourself “Why does this matter?”. And you would say because my wife is the most important person in my life. I loved her more than anything in the world and our future happiness and health of our relationship depends upon me being present and fully integrating our lives. And it becomes a must because if I don’t do these things I could lose her. I could lose this relationship.
This is all theoretical, by the way. I love my wife and we’re doing amazing. Thank God.
But moving from a “should” to a “must” makes it absolutely imperative that you get this done. So, find your leverage.
My leverage is, that, if this person means the world to me, then my every moment in life should be focused on lighting up her soul, bringing out the best in her, filling her needs, and being everything that I can be for her. Because I know if I do that, I’ll get the same in return and our relationship will be everything that it’s meant to be. It’s a must because of that.
Your health. If you’re saying, if you have some health issues, and in order to solve them, or to move forward, and to get healthy again, you need to change your diet. Start eating healthier. Start exercising start. Strengthening your heart.
Think about it this way. If I don’t do these things, I can severely damage my health. I may not be around for my husband, or wife, or my kids, or my friends, or my family. I may not be able to go to work and support my family. I may not be able to do the things that I love. I may not be able to enjoy this gift of life for as long as I hope to. That’s leverage and that will change your “should” to an absolute “must.” Tony Robbins taught me this and the power of these words is incredible.
What are things that have been “shoulds” in your life that need to be “musts?” When you say “must” it will push you into action. You won’t look back. So, go do that. Make it a must. Your life depends upon it. Your relationships depend upon it. Your happiness and joy. Your fulfillment depends upon it.
Turn your “shoulds” into “musts” and go get it done. Change your life. Be in charge. Empower yourself. And when you do that, your impact on all those around you, all those that you care about will be enormous and beautiful. Be brave. Be you. Go get it. Be strong. Make it a must!
