Re-Evaluating Our Early Beliefs

Good morning, everyone. And welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about certain beliefs that we developed at a very young age that, to this day, could be negatively influencing us. Even sabotaging our efforts to be happy, successful, or thriving in our lives.

I woke up thinking about money and the first 4 years of my life. My parents were still together, we lived in a small house listening to Cat Stevens on our old red velvet couch. There was so much love. We didn’t have many material things. But there was so much love and connection.

Then, my parents got divorced and my mom married a really rich, famous guy. Suddenly we moved into this massive house and we had everything that we could ever dream of. But what I felt was there was less time for connection and love. They traveled a lot and were gone a lot.

So, for me, the meaning I gave money was that it steals love. Money takes away quality time. Money takes away connection. Basically, love and connection — the things that mean the most to me — will be taken away if money comes in.

Now, this is a crazy belief, but you can see how it developed.

When my wife and I developed Believe Ranch and Rescue, our non-profit horse rescue, we were struggling to raise any money at all. And it’s still a big effort for us. We went off to Tony Robbins’ Business Mastery course. It was just unbelievable because the first thing that I realized when I went to this course is that my relationship with money — the meaning I gave money — was completely preventing me from having the ability to become financially free.

I had to change what I saw money as doing in my life. For me, if I could achieve financial freedom, I would be able to save more horses. I would be able to give more to the people that I love and care about. I would be able to give to the causes that I care about. Basically, financial freedom would give me the ability to love more, give more, save more and create more in the world, which is what I’m all about.

It’s about loving. I love these horses. I am trying to save these horses from the most dramatic, horrible, torturous fate. But in order to do that, we have to raise money. We need to ask for money and ask for help. If I was repelling the idea of money, then I was also preventing any chance of bringing it into our lives so that we could save more horses and give more.

So, think about your relationship with money. What do you think money brings you?

If you’re like me, and you have a relationship that isn’t a positive one, it’s so important for you to change your meaning of money so that you open yourself up to be able to create and live the life that you dream of. To me, having money isn’t about having the material things. It means that I have the ability to spend more time with my family, see them more often. Part of my family is on the other side of the world in Australia. So, if I achieve financial freedom, we can visit them more. That means more time together. More chance of connection.

Also, I can give more to the world around me. I can help others that need help. I can give a voice to those that don’t have one. I can help create and develop things to give back to this beautiful world and this life that has given me so much.

These beliefs can also be about relationships or love or life itself. Think about what you think life is. If life is har
d, you’re always going to be finding that it’s hard. You will find proof of that. Or if love is dangerous, you’re always going to be afraid of creating a relationship.

First, you want to think back to where do these beliefs come from? Why have I had this directing my life? When you realize that we created these beliefs long ago and no longer serve us anymore — if anything, they are holding us back. Find a more empowering meaning. Free yourself from the chains that are keeping you from living your best life.

Every day, examine your different beliefs and see if they are serving you or disempowering you. If you find that something is holding you back, change it. Form a more empowering meaning. Have a different way of looking at it. Get out there and live the life that you dream of because this life is truly such a beautiful gift. I know that all of us want to be able to experience the most love, joy, success, and fulfillment. In order to do that, we need to look at the things that may be holding us back as far as our beliefs go.

Thank you, everyone. Have an amazing day.

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