Good morning everyone, and welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles. Today, I want to talk about relationships as that place where we go to give love. Imagine thinking about your marriage, your relationship, your friendships as a place where you go to give love, to give joy, to give support, encouragement, joy, whatever it is rather than thinking about what we want to receive from this other person. What we want to receive from our partner. What we want to receive from our friend.

My belief is that if you’re thinking about what can I give to this person? How can I love this person? How can I appreciate this person? How can I honor this person? And celebrate this person? That leads to an energy where all they want to do is return, is find out how can they give to you? How can they love you? How can they honor you? How can they cherish you?

Tony Robbins always says “Trade your expectation for appreciation and see your entire world change.” Imagine — and those of you that aren’t in a relationship — if you think about that relationship as a place where you want to go when you fully have everything you need inside of you. And all you want to do in a relationship is give. That’s going to lead you to, what I would imagine, is a very successful relationship.

If we are wanting to get into a relationship to receive something that we don’t think we already have. Then I think that can create problems because then we’re going in with an expectation. And little quibbles, little arguments, and we all have them. Bek and I have them. But couldn’t they be avoided in huge ways by rather than thinking about what you haven’t received, what you haven’t gotten, what they haven’t done, you focus simply on what are you giving them? How are you loving them? How are you filling up their lives with joy because inevitably what’s going to happen is they are going to want to be doing the same for you. Trade your expectation for appreciation and see your world change.

Thank you, Tony Robbins, for putting it so beautifully because it’s so very true. Don’t go into a relationship expecting. Go into the relationship appreciating. And truly it will lead to the magic that we all dream of in our lives.